We've all been there...
We get that intuitive sense that something just isn't right but we can't quite put our fingers on it.
You watch a couple together and it seems "off" somehow, you sense a secret but don't know what it is....before you know it some stories just don't add up and the whole thing kinda mushrooms until it explodes.
The big secret might be an affair, an impending divorce, an addiction, an arrest, a job loss, any number of things, but the point is that nobody acknowledges the 4 ton elephant in the room.
How many times do we want to confront a situation but lack the stones to do so? We see someone whose child is doing something foolish or downright life threatening, but we mind our own business. We watch someone's flirty behavior around the office take on tones that probably wouldn't be appreciated by a devoted spouse--but we tell ourselves that we aren't seeing what we truly are. Pills go missing from the cabinet right after a visit from so-and-so, but we tell ourselves that it isn't possible and that we must have miscounted somewhere along the way.
Or worse, someone asks us not to mention or tell someone what they know we know. We are now a willing participant in a direct cover up.
Why is confrontation so difficult, and what is wrong with holding people accountable for their actions? If approached in a loving, non-judgmental way, why is it such a bad thing to go to someone and say, "hey, can we talk? I'm a little worried about (insert life-altering train wreck here).
Just wondering....
What are your thoughts?
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